After reading an article on the Women In The World site about a blog called The Everyday Sexism Project, I became inspired. The Everyday Sexism Project is a blog site created by actress and activist Laura Bates. The purpose of the blog is to allow women post stories of the sexism they experience everyday.
After reading a few of these, and posting one of my own, I was overwhelmed by the responses. I could feel the anxiety, fear, anger and even shame just by reading some of the posts. Those feelings washed over me so profoundly because as a woman I have felt them all. I could relate to every letter written; especially that secret feeling. You know, that feeling you get when someone tells you something that they have never told anyone before? Yeah, I got that vibe from a lot of the posts.
With that I began to think about just how many “secrets” woman really keep. And not just the bad kind. What specifically came to mind were those secret dreams that were put on hold because we started a family or because we supported a spouse or significant other, and even though they are on hold they still pull and call us to follow them.
Or that “thing or things” we had to do to feed our families or to just survive that no one in our sphere could or would understand let alone accept. Or that spontaneous, life altering, romantic, inappropriate, completely sexy and utterly un-lady like day/experience/ adventure we took that left us breathless and full of life-that we dare not tell our any other living soul with lips for the fear of Scarlet Letter upon our breasts and a noose waiting for us in the city square!
Or ANYTHING that we just need to get off of our chests so that we can breathe!
I think we all just need a place to breathe……
So, I created Dear Butterfly…..
As the carriers and bearers of life, we women have the capacity to carry and hold a lot. And most of us do-inside. There are things that we have been through, things we have had to do, things that we have seen and things that we have sacrificed that we, for whatever reason, are not free to share with anyone for fear of rejection, ridicule, anger, labeling and abandonment. That’s why so many of us suffer depression, anxiety, loneliness and a sense of entrapment-because of the things we hold inside.
It’s time to let some of what is keeping us captive go….
There is a Native American/First Peoples Legend that says: If anyone desires a wish to come true they must first capture a butterfly and whisper their wish to it. Since a butterfly can make no sound, the butterfly can not reveal the wish to anyone but the Great Spirit who hears and sees all.
In gratitude for giving the beautiful butterfly its freedom, the Great Spirit always grants the wish. So, according to legend, by making a wish and giving the butterfly its freedom, the wish will be taken to the heavens and be granted.
Well if a butterfly is that good at keeping a secret, why not tell it all! We, The Butterfly Bridge, created Dear Butterfly as a place for you to whisper your
- Hearts desires,
- Biggest Secrets
- Wildest Dreams
- Unknown Sacrifices
- And that life altering, breathtaking, totally irresponsible, completely sexy, un-lady like and totally dangerous adventure that if told to another soul with lips, is sure to earn you that long anticipated Scarlet Letter the towns people have been itching to tattoo on your breast or a hanging in the town square…..and anything weighing you down, into the ear of your very own butterfly.
Address each post: Dear Butterfly, and release whatever you need to release that will free your heart, clear your mind and let you breathe again!
As you write, imagine your letter being carried away to a place of hope, forgiveness, encouragement, and love. And once your letter has flown away, let yourself experience the release of it so you can begin to walk in a liberated destiny. Also, help us to maintain that atmosphere by spreading the love. Encourage each other and give kind words so that we all can walk in complete liberty!
This blog is totally for you and is an open community for women to express themselves without fear of negativity. See the BUTTERFLY COMMANDMENTS for submission and commenting guidelines. Feel free to post pictures with your submissions, but again keep it FLY! This is a Butterfly Zone and no ugliness of any kind is allowed. We are all too cute for that!
Our website www.thebutterflybridge.wordpress.com
Here are the Butterfly Commandments:
1.) Keep it clean! No overly vulgar posts please. A curse word here or there, meh…but no need to speak trucker-ease to get your point across.
2.) No pornography of any kind.
3.) No negativity! This is a negative free zone. We are here to encourage not degrade or bully one another.
4.) All negative comments and posts will be deleted-period.
5.) Only serious questions will be addressed. Please, no spamming.
6.) If you are in trouble or need help, ask for it! There are plenty of organizations that can help if you are in a crisis. If you are in need of resources that deal with women’s issues, you can email us @ firstname.lastname@example.org or use the Ask a Question page and we will try to get you the information that you need.
7.) Submissions that violate the Butterfly Commandments will be deleted.